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A Simple Way to Practice The Art of Letting Go

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MIKE LIGUORI

Imagine a life in which you could easily release any negative feelings and instantly feel better.

Imagine where you could enjoy being where you are right now and not be consumed in comparison.

Regardless of your circumstances, you enjoy life as it unfolds for you.

This is the art of letting go.

Letting go is releasing the attachment to our thoughts in order to experience life in the present moment. It is the most powerful method for reducing negative feelings and emotions.

Like all things, the art of letting go requires daily practice. The more you do it, the more you will improve. You fall at times. You will stumble in your journey to practice the art of letting go. But do not give up when this happens.

Letting go requires mastery, which is no matter how many times you fall down or stumble, you have the will to pick yourself up and try again.

Before we get into the art of letting go, it is broken up into three stages; the storyteller, the scientist, and the monk.

Each stage represents a progression from the time we have a thought to the point of release.

Executing the art of letting go perfectly with every single thought is impossible, so remember that as you practice.

By design, we as humans, are inherently flawed. This is because we must experience friction and resistance to become more evolved versions of who we are.

Most people tend to quit during periods of friction simply because they are trying to force a result. When we do this, it makes things harder for us and more difficult to experience life.

We are under the impression we are in control of everything in our life.

This is not the case.

We are in control of very little except our thoughts, feelings, and actions.

The art of letting go will help you surrender to your desire to control and focus more on creating a more beautiful experience of your life in the present moment.

These are the three stages.

The Storyteller

The archetype of the storyteller is when we embody the narrative of how we see things. We look for the drama, emphasize the build-up to the story's climax, and seek where we can garner attention when we are in this archetype.

In this stage, we also look for ways to bolster the story to make it more real for us. The mind loves to find anything it can attach itself to when it comes to thought.

The Scientist

The scientist is in the observer stage of letting go. In this stage, we hear the story and begin to ask questions about it. This stage is not filled with judgment but rather with gathering evidence and facts.

This is more difficult than the storyteller stage of letting go because the stories we tell are the ones we believe.

To examine them from the lens of a scientist is to question our own stories, thoughts, and beliefs.

The Monk

The final stage in letting go is that of the monk. This is not to say you must be a monk to let things go. This is not to assume that you must achieve spiritual enlightenment before letting go.

We think of monks as those who leave behind worldly possessions to seek inner peace. I am not suggesting you embark on this lifestyle for you to let go.

Moving to the monk stage is acknowledging and choosing to let go of the attachment.

The feelings that may cause you anxiety, depression, or other negative feelings toward the story will reduce. You will feel lighter. You will feel much more clear and more satisfied with your life. The present moment will feel like a gift to you.

A Simple Way to Practice Letting Go

One of the parts about letting go is the practice allows us to expand our awareness. A simple way of increasing our awareness is to do awareness walks. An awareness walk is spending time with yourself, using your focus and energy to bring attention to the environment around you. You can do these walks for 5 minutes, 20 minutes, or however long feels right to you.

The purpose of the practice is to notice and observe without judgment as you walk.

There will be times during your walk when you will have opinions and conclusions about what you see. You may notice someone on a walk with their dog and immediately have thoughts about who that person is and how the dog may behave.

This is ok.

Do not be harsh on yourself if you have a judgment on your walk. The point is to recognize when they come up (storyteller stage) and to ask questions (scientist stage) and release attachment (monk stage)

There is no prescription for this practice.

You do as you need. As with everything, the more you practice awareness, the more your awareness will expand.