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Have You Asked Yourself Why 7 Times?

One why will tell you what you want. 7 whys will get you what you desire.

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MIKE LIGUORI

Want to have an amazing business that prints money while you sleep?

Want to have a six-pack of abs and be in amazing shape?

Desire a beautiful relationship with your significant other?

Of course, you do. I do as well.

Most people want two out of the three things I mentioned above. Some want all three.

Wants are easy for people to identify. Dreams are also, but here's the question.

Do you know why?

Do you know why you want an amazing business that prints money while you sleep?

You probably can answer that one easily; my guess is that your answer would be financial security and freedom.

But have you asked yourself why financial security? Why financial freedom?

Again your answer may be so I can have more time to do what I want.

Now have you asked yourself why?

If we were to continue this line of questioning, we would find ourselves far removed from money and land somewhere else.

That somewhere else may be love, joy, etc.,

That somewhere maybe travel.

Whatever the answer is for you, we got there by asking why more than one time.

The 7 Whys

Dean Graziosi is a multiple-time New York Times best-selling author and entrepreneur. You may have seen him at events with Tony Robbins, and his perspectives on the stories we tell ourselves are masterful.

On a podcast with Ed Mylett, Dean shares the seven whys concept. The concept helps you understand the why behind your goals, dreams, or actions.

You pick a goal, and let's say your goal is a million dollars this year. You would ask yourself why you want a million dollars and then answer.

Now you ask why again for that answer until you get to the seventh why.

You can ask yourself more than seven whys, but Dean shares that seven should help you find the real reason you want a million dollars.

I have done this exercise a bunch, including in my most recent book about my road trip with my Dad.

I went from my first why writing a book to the last why being to help people heal their relationships with their parents.

Interestingly, I didn't know that was the core reason I was writing the story about healing my relationship with my Dad.

I suggest using this exercise for anything you want as it is easy to implement with any goal or desire.

Try it out and see where you land.

If you want to take it a step further than the seven whys, try my exercise below to help define your dream's path.

Write the ending to the story of your dream

Nothing crystallizes your dreams more than writing. The moment the fingers hit the keyboard or pen hits the paper, a world of possibility opens up for you. As a writer, I am biased toward the traditional pen-to-paper method.

Things become much clearer for me when I handwrite in my journaling or map out my tasks for the day. I find my memory committing quickly to what I write out, and it adds more and more to the story I am living.

If you do the seven whys exercise, handwriting the ending to the story of your dream will help you see the journey ahead.

Some questions to help you get started:

1. What does your life look like when you hit your goal or achieve your dream?

2. What are the feelings you are experiencing?

3. Who is there with you at the top of your mountain?

Clarity is key.

The clearer you can get with the ending, the easier you can see the path before you.

Your dream won't be a dream anymore. It'll be a goal that seems much closer than it did before.