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If You Want to Change, You Must Be Willing to Change

One of the frameworks I teach entrepreneurs in my work is the Four Stages of Will. The Four Stages of Will deconstructs and identifies where there is a misalignment in your life.

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MIKE LIGUORI

One of the frameworks I teach entrepreneurs in my work is the Four Stages of Will.

The Four Stages of Will deconstructs and identifies where there is a misalignment in your life. The stages create solutions through a series of profound questions and thought-provoking exercises.

Some of the most significant breakthroughs I have had in my life came from utilizing this framework.

It's how I created my multi-six-figure businesses.

It's where my relationship with my dad improved.

It's how I dropped over 30 pounds; at 39, I am physically and mentally in the best shape of my life.

The best part about this framework is that there is no secret sauce.

There is no book you need to read or course you need to buy to access this framework.

It would help if you were alone, with a pen and paper, and begin the deep work that comes with this.

It is not easy. It will require you to look at yourself and examine the parts of your life that you have been running from.

It will make you ask why you are getting in the way of your goals.

It will be a great challenge but one I believe will lead you to the transformation that you want in your life.

If you wish to receive guidance and support in this profound work of the four stages, I have two spots open for my 1:1 12-week program.

Stage 1: Will to Acknowledge

Before any change can occur, we must acknowledge that what we are currently doing right now in our life is not working for us.

We are not where we would like to be within our business.

We do not like where our life is going.

We know that we can do better, not because better equals success.

Better means alignment.

When we accept that our circumstances have been created by a series of choices and enact our patterns, this is where we begin to dive into alignment.

Alignment is finding what works and does not work for you. It is knowing what you want and making choices to have what you want.

Awareness of the results of our choices comes in this stage as well.

We cannot acknowledge what we are not aware of.

Stage 2: Will to Change

For any change to occur, there must be a willingness to change.

You can be aware and acknowledge everything in your life, good or bad.

But to make a difference where life is substantially better, you must be willing to change.

Alas, people revert to their old patterns. They continue to walk down the only road they've ever known (cue Whitesnake's Here I Go Again.)

They resist that change for them is the best option to getting what they want.

There is a period of excitement and joy that our desires lie on the other side of this stage.

We can see everything we want because we know we want to change!

Stage 3: Will to Create

We get stuck because they do not know how to create for themselves.

We have never known how to or were we empowered to create solutions to their problems.

This is not a fault of anyone at all. Instead, it's a breakdown in our society that we are not taught how powerful we are in creating our realities.

The most successful people you follow online are creators.

They see that life is truly in the eye of the beholder. It is not out there, meaning it is not in the constructs of day-to-day life.

It is internal. It is belief combined with a detailed vision to create something of magnitude for themselves.

Once you hit this stage, you must double down on the belief in your ability to create anything you want, whenever you want.

This works beautifully for a life of health, wealth, and abundance.

This can also work in the negative.

In summary of this stage, I'll leave you with this

"Be careful what you wish for. You just might get it."

Stage 4: Will to Commit

This stage is the one that separates those who get what they want and those who do not.

Every single one of these stages is meant to lead you to the willingness to commit.

You must progress through the first 3 for you to get to this stage.

When you hit this final stage in the four stages of will, you will be confronted with a commitment to making the change a reality for you.

Change starts with commitment. Commitment is all about action.

Let's take weight loss as an example.

If you acknowledge that you are overweight and it is not working for you (Stage 1), you are willing to change your weight and body to get healthier (Stage 2).

To change means you must create a solution to your acknowledgment (Stage 3) which brings us to Stage 4 of commitment.

A common question I ask my clients is,

"What does commitment look like to change the circumstances of your business?"

I ask this question because it helps individuals define commitment for themselves and gets them to a stage of taking the first steps.

The most critical part of these stages is the following:

You are a creator. You can change your reality at any time.

Believe that you can change. My hope for you is that these four stages are simply stages to help you move toward what you want.